Stanford researchers have identified a simple question that can transform awkward date night conversations: asking your partner to explain why they hold certain opinions. Their experiments showed that when someone feels genuinely heard, they become more open-minded, view their conversation partner more positively, and are less likely to hold negative attitudes toward opposing viewpoints.

Instead of immediately debating or dismissing a date's opinion, expressing curiosity with questions like 'Can you tell me more about why you think that?' can foster trust and intimacy. Additional studies from Israel and the United Kingdom reinforce that high-quality listening—being fully engaged and asking thoughtful follow-ups—helps reduce prejudice and encourages self-reflection.

Both sets of research suggest that, especially in new relationships, showing genuine interest in a partner's perspective is far more effective than arguing. This approach not only makes conversations flow better but also builds a foundation for deeper connection and mutual respect.