As many prepare for Passover amid the strain of war, holiday cleaning takes on deeper meaning. Beyond scrubbing homes, the season of spring and renewal offers an opportunity for internal cleansing, reflection, and strengthening personal resilience. Psychotherapist Sharon Dashti explains that true change begins not with guilt or self-criticism, but with self-love and compassion.

According to Dashti, many people are driven by a harsh inner voice formed in childhood, one that fuels shame and fear. While some believe criticism motivates productivity, she argues that fear-based motivation is short-lived and creates an unsafe inner environment. Reframing actions such as exercising or cleaning as acts of care rather than punishment fosters sustainable change and a healthier internal dialogue.

Cleaning out of fear of judgment, such as tidying only for guests, reflects external pressure rather than self-worth. In contrast, choosing to clean because one deserves a pleasant space encourages freedom and empowerment. Even deciding not to clean on a given day can be a valid, self-compassionate choice that does not define a person’s value.

Dashti emphasizes that lasting improvement comes through small, compassionate steps and recognizing everyday accomplishments. By responding to the inner critic with understanding instead of blame, individuals can create a safe internal home, where decisions stem from choice rather than obligation, making Passover an ideal time to begin this inner renewal.